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The Great Female Proposal Debate – Part I

February 29th – the most awkward of birthdays and the one day every four years women are ‘allowed’ to break with convention and propose to their male counterparts. In Denmark, a man’s refusal would traditionally be met with 12 pairs of gloves, while in medieval Britain only a kiss or monetary compensation- a ‘hag tax’, if you will- were sufficient consolation for the spurned maid. It seems bizarre in this day and age that these antiquated rules of courtship are still talked about, let alone taken seriously, but the female proposal debate is undoubtedly an interesting one. First we hear from Daily Mail columnist Alice Dogruyol-  is proposing the man’s chance to finally take on the role of courtly lover and prove his undying devotion? 
 

Alice Dogruyol
 
Really? REALLY? You want us to do that as well? So, not only are we expected to be vixen lovers, perfect mothers, domestic goddess’ and successful career girls but we are also expected to lose all hope of experiencing the one small glimmer of romance still allowed us in these post-feminist days: the marriage proposal.

Men say they increasingly worry about their place in today’s world. Well I can tell you that one place is on one knee, preferably on a balcony in a Venetian piazza, as a string quartet plays Puccini in the background as the sun sets over the terracotta rooftops and a diamond ring is presented in a little green box.

I have to admit that it’s probably all our own fault. We 21st century women can do it all, but there are some things we now wish we didn’t have to. Yes women want, and deserve, to be treated as human beings equal in importance to men, but surely that doesn’t mean we now have to throw out romance? Asking a man to marry you is just not romantic not to mention emasculating. I don’t know any woman who wouldn’t secretly or openly thrill to being swept of their feet by a genuinely romantic proposal, to feel wanted, beautiful and loved. After all, she most likely decided a couple of weeks or months into the relationship that she was ready to commit the rest of her life to making his a happier one so the least he can do is make her feel like it’s going to be worth it.

The only women who will be popping the question on 29th Feb will be those who have given up hope of their useless, commitment-phobe boyfriends doing the decent thing. Instead of planning your leap year proposal, I would exercise a little female cunning and gently bring him around to the idea of proposing in such a way that he thinks he came up with it all by himself. I believe it’s important for a man make the decision himself to officially stop sewing his seed, even if you have secretly engineered it. Men like to feel that they are the head of the family but ladies remember, the man may be the head, but the woman is the neck – and she can turn the head any way she wants.

 

Fighting talk from Alice Dogruyol…See what our male competitor Andrew has to say here.